Many have self worth, self esteem issues, find it difficult to overcome depression and achieve happiness. Self help and self improvement can be done to build happiness and improve on low self worth, low self esteem and love the self again. – Christine Breese
Posts Tagged ‘Love’
When we use our energy to bring light into the world, it combines with the light brought by others, to dispel the darkness.
How to be the source of unconditional love. “To get love from a loving being source, you must be the love that you are looking for and seeking. The love is in you! To be unconditional love is to be the source of love, rather than looking to another being to get love. Looking for love in a source outside yourself is not being the unconditional love source yourself. Being the source of unconditional love is to the source of love for others who are looking for a loving being. Be the love that you seek by looking for unconditional love outside yourself no more. Looking for love inside yourself is the place you will find the unconditional loving being you were looking for in love.” Christine Breese
by Steve Pavlina
One reason people fear getting hurt is that they’ve had some bad experiences in the past and haven’t fully recovered yet. Another problem is that people have an undue fear of hurting others because they’ve caused some pain in the past, and they’re still harboring a lot of guilt and regret.
What does it take to let go of that fear and pain and to summon the courage to take new risks in your relationships, in the hopes of experiencing ever greater levels of joy?
Basically, you just have to get back in the arena and do the best you can… without worrying so much about getting hurt. Over time your calibration will improve. You’ll get better at avoiding broken hearts, and you’ll learn to create joy more consistently. Unfortunately, you have to move through the hurt phase to get to the joy phase.
If you live your life so as to minimize your potential hurt, you’ll endure a very dull, dreary, and cowardly existence. This is how drug addicts aim to live. Of course the pain always gets its say further down the road.
Anyone who wants to live consciously must accept that getting battered and bruised is part of the game of life. It happens.
When you get hurt, the best response is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, tend to your bruises, consider what you’ve learned, and get back in the game with even more resolve than you had when you were knocked down.
Wounds heal. This includes the wounds you inflict as well as those that are inflicted upon you.
Life has knocked me down quite a few times. I’ve been arrested and convicted. I went bankrupt trying to build my first business. I was kicked out of my apartment because I couldn’t pay the rent. People criticize me publicly every week, especially this week. Hmmm… wonder why…
Does it hurt when stuff like this happens? Sure it does. I’m not invulnerable.
I know that life will keep knocking me down again and again. And each time I’ll get up, dust myself off, and tend to my wounds. Then I’ll say in my snarkiest tone, “Nice try, Life. Is that the best you can do?”
I don’t want to reach my grave in pristine “like new” condition. I won’t die with my music still in me. When the coroner checks my dead body, I want him to say, “Damn… what the hell did he do to this thing?”
Don’t try to grow a big callous around your heart to protect yourself from getting hurt. Don’t try to shield yourself from emotional pain. That will only make you cold and callous yourself. If you disconnect from your heart, you disconnect from everything. You’ll rob your life of all its delicious flavor.
Instead, take the hurt as it comes, and fully accept it. Listen to what the hurt is telling you, learn from it, and grow through it. See the hurt as a gift instead of a punishment. Tune into the joy behind the sadness.
The message of hurt is this: Despite what’s happened, can you still respond with love?
Even when you’re faced with negative emotions, can you see beyond them and consciously choose to respond with love instead of reacting with fear?
Can you see how helpful this process is in the long run? The more you get hurt, the more you develop your ability to choose love.
If you look at some of the most loving souls on earth, their pasts are often riddled with the most wicked abuse and suffering you can imagine. Knock them down, and they keep coming back with more love. Do you sense the power of this way of living?
From the film, The Legend Of 1900
Suzanne performed this dance at the Healing Journeys’ conference in Seattle, WA in 2006. This meditative and eloquent dance is choreographed to the first cut from the “Graceful Passages” CD with words from Lew Epstein and music by award-winning composer Gary Malkin and Michael Stillwater. It invites us to ponder the eternal questions of living, dying and the continuity of spirit. More information at http://www.healingjourneys.org
The time has come to let go of fear and understand that honesty is to be the hallmark of success. Honesty is honor and by that you are judged and you are judged by yourself. You may have been at fault or committed an error, but you can be forgiven when you have honor. Liars have no honor because they continue to evade the truth. As a sovereign individual you are an independent soul who can perform a natural contract with others. This world is founded upon truth and that truth has been given to each of us from the age preceding.