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Whom do narcissists malign? Almost everyone.

April 23, 2009

by Anna Valerious

http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com/

Whom do narcissists malign? Almost everyone. If you suspect someone of being a narcissist, praise a person who obviously deserves it to him or her and observe their reaction. It shows.

Malignant narcissists speak well of very few others. Only their narcissistic parent (when no longer vulnerable to that parent) and anyone they can aggrandize themselves by association with at others’ expense.

For example, if you don’t get along with someone, the narcissist will say, “I get along with him fine.” He will have nothing but praise for that person. Likewise, if you got bad service at a restaurant, the narcissist will say, “They gave me excellent service.” The narcissist praises the other because it reflects badly on you and well on him.

Similarly, the narcissist with a trophy wife goes around praising her beauty. He’s aggrandizing himself by association with her. And at the expense of everyone not good enough to win a trophy wife like his. He’ll likewise aggrandize himself by association with some important person he knows, praising that person everywhere he goes to name-drop.

But such special cases are the only ones you hear a good word about from a narcissist. In fact, a narcissist will stubbornly refuse to admit any fault in them at all. They are ideal, perfect in his or her eyes.

But the rest of humanity get the opposite. Often, narcissists glibly sneak bad ideas about others into your head. They do this by chipping away at that person’s image subtly and relentlessly every time they mention him or her. Often perfuming the bad offering to cover up its smell.

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